Traci Gardner
@traci87
Wife. Home school mom. Recipient of Grace.
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Moms with kids get overwhelmed. Whether you have one or a gaggle, we get overwhelmed. It’s just part of motherhood. But, how we respond to it does matter. I see many opinions and coping techniques so I thought I throw mine in the ring because I believe a very important 1/8
All these larping warrior men who pretend they’re in battle on the internet aren’t strong enough to help their wives with real life.
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I don’t care what the manly men fools say women should be. When your wife of almost 24 years still pre-makes your breakfast sandwiches despite currently dealing with breathing issues that make it hard to get deep breaths, even though you’ve told her she doesn’t need to do…
I don’t want to fight the hyper patriarchy on X. I want to drink stuff from these glasses.
What an observation!
In Animal Farm, Boxer the horse's solution is always "I will work harder." He ends up at the glue factory. I think the "just work harder" p.o.v. is often destructive for mothers. Problem-solving to reduce workload & increase rest & recreation is essential to avoid later burnout.
When motherhood is difficult, tedious or exhausting, rely on Christ. Do not rely on yourself. No need to grab those bootstraps. Rest in the finished work of Christ on your behalf and let the frenzy die.
“admit you need to grow up and work harder” … “this is not works based theology”. Ladies, I’m not saying you should live in sloth & laziness, neglecting your family … but the other extreme is working yourself to the bone in silent tortured suffering. Don’t fall for extremes ♥️
There are a lot of lovely women on here who are ready to encourage you who do not have a book to sell you, a podcast to subscribe to, albums to peddle or conferences to push.
Agreed
Sometimes you do need to check your attitude. Sometimes you’re allowing yourself to be a victim and your laziness is overpowering and causing chaos in your home. Other times your sleep deprived, poor, touched out, worried, nutrient depleted, lonely and pressured. You’re…
Don’t “try harder” until you know that He remembers you are dust and has a multitude of kind thoughts for all who find they are in need.
A lot of us mothers who are pushing back against the “work harder” solution to the difficulties of motherhood is that we did try harder and as a result we forget the good news in the midst of our efforts and self condemnation.
Ok here is my testimony of a Christian wife and mother of littles. It's not advice, because I know nothing - I do not know all the mistakes I'm making today, and I do not know which ones you're struggling with.
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Contrary to what young women tell other younger women, I’m going to tell you that it’s ok to rest and not just buckle down or pull yourself up by your bootstraps. I’m going to remind you that entering into the rest of our Almighty King and Creator
Do you think the man who runs this account laughs at the men who are always drooling over it?
I wear a ribbon because I am my husband's gift.
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As I get older, I can sense people dressing me with their eyes.
If you feel like you’re drowning, it might be time to abandon any performance based approval you are seeking. God never promised to energize your frenzy.