Megha
@meghaverma_art
Writing about True Love and Great Art, Wife and Mother Bestseller on Substack
This is the best and most important essay I have ever written in my life. I don't think there is anything more important that needs to be read and understood today when it comes to love and relationships. The crystallization of a lifetime of insight.
People who have no experience in the matter think that a nanny is just supplanting the mother’s role. When in reality, she is helping her, side by side. An extra pair of hands and eyes is in no way replacing the mother. If you’ve got more than one baby, what do you do when both…
If you can't afford for your wife to take care of the kids then you can't afford kids. But in reality, the SAHM is more valuable than the career woman in every way. She saves you money too.
Every day he gives a passionate sermon about why his lifestyle matters more to him than being a father. And yet the inevitable resentment will surprise him. He will try to win his childrens hearts with gifts, and will be bewildered when they squander it and resent him anyway.
I am at a phase in life where I’m reading one page of a book per day because I’m very busy. Some friends have recommended I try audiobooks but I’d rather not read at all than bastardize the experience for myself.
The human eye has greater dimension of vision than the most sophisticated cameras on earth. There is a flattening effect of value that cameras have (professional photographers may correct me) that completely alter the visual scene.
This painting captures the light of sunset better than any (unedited) photo I have ever seen.
My painting PORTSMOUTH WALK
Yup. It’s important to swallow your pride and get some help not merely for your own sake, but for the good of your marriage and your children!
From age 0-4 is the hardest time. I’ve seen it drive parents insane and that’s even when they had some help.
Being courteous to people on the road while driving. Being courteous and extra patient with parents travelling with babies.
What's a behaviour you wish you could incentivize?
Poverty mindset people think outsourcing any part of their work is a moral failing. Wealth mindset people understand that time is the most valuable thing and outsourcing menial tasks means they have more time for the more important ones.
This could be an illustration from Anne of Green Gables 😍
I’ve been stressed for months that I’ve been painting too slowly, so it felt really good to paint this one alla prima tonight!
Yes exactly. Not to mention alone time with your husband just to go for a walk together or have lunch together. Crucial for the marriage.
Even full time moms it's important for babies to learn it's ok to be separated from Mom. Zero apart time fosters separation anxiety imo. I had in-home care for years Tues & Thur 9-12 for this reason. It also lets Mom make personal appts like hair or doc or coffee with friends at…
Ask the women who do live this way though, it’s suffocating. Living with your in laws can mean no longer being in charge of your own children and major decisions over their lives. Living near family is very different than living with them.
This is why multigen living and bigger families is the ideal OS.
“If the nanny is watching the children what is the mom doing?” Also watching the kids, actually. Or taking a shower. Or working out. Because it takes more than one person to look after babies effectively. Reject the modern idea that mothers are meant to “do it all”.
If you’ve been given a talent by God, you’re meant to use it to serve society in some positive way. This applies to both men and women.
Childcare debate between Nannies and Daycare is often made in favour of the latter only when they use the Hollywood movie of “nanny diaries” as their reference point for what a nanny even does.
Pilates or book club is max 2hrs out of the day. You are erroneously comparing this to being away for an entire day for work. Also these things recharge the mother whereas work drains her. Finally, a nanny known & trusted by the family is a MUCH safer option than sending your…
It’s because people who people who pay others to care for their kids while working to support their family are surprised to learn that those who are always shouting about how terrible it is are also doing it. Just on a smaller scale and for reasons like ‘Pilates’ and ‘book club.’
If you’re going to let Africans compete in sports, everyone else kind of has to use steroids or it’s not even fair.
The biggest victory that RFK Junior could deliver to the Bro community is removing anabolics from the controlled substances list Let the states regulate it
A lot of cruelty is needed. A lot. Which does not nearly compare to the cruelty that homeless vagrants and low IQ violent criminals inflict on innocent people every day.
Jesus Christ. Horrible take. Libraries don't cater exclusively or even mostly to children. Plenty of books are spectacular pieces of art or are deeply insightful but aren't kid appropriate. And shooting homeless people? How much cruelty is needed for your ideal society?