Dean Abbott

My coaching and spiritual direction services continue to grow as do those who choose to work with me. The document below tells you a little more about what I do. Click the link to schedule. calendly.com/deanabbott/cla…

Your life isn't a machine. You can't get the results you want just by making the right inputs and flipping a switch. If you are frustrated by how long things take, remember your life is more like a plant than a machine. It grows and blooms at its own place. Your job is to tend…

Your life isn't a machine. You can't get the results you want just by making the right inputs and flipping a switch. If you are frustrated by how long things take, remember your life is more like a plant than a machine. It grows and blooms at its own place. Your job is to tend…

People now conceive of relationships as totally transactional. So much of the advice here, like this piece, encourages people to enter relationships defensively as one would with an aggressive salesman whose desire is to cheat and defraud. Human beings are complicated. There…

Functional sleep is okay, but optimal sleep is best. Get 7-8 hours uncompromisingly.

Waiting is a test of character. Can you wait, even past the point of frustration, with good cheer? Can you maintain hope when things take a while? If not, learn to see waiting as an opportunity to be present, to observe and prepare.

So much self-improvement advice here sends the message that all you need to do is write down your goals and grind. But, there's a limit. You are not a machine. You are a human being in a dying body. All any of can do is take small steps in the right direction.

You can't develop discipline by being disciplined, you can only nurture the quality of discipline as it grows in its own wild and unpredictable way.

Honestly, you probably need more sleep.

People can embody traits and virtues that make them ready for marriage. Concern about this kind of trivia is not one of them. A woman who would do this does not possess the soul of a faith wife.

We are so brainwashed to believe the best kind of person is the hard-charger who is always pressing for more. But, this is not the way to a flourishing human life, and we feel guilty for being anything else.

Indeed. The mark of mature masculinity is delight in and protection of the Feminine. Unfortunately, lot of men hunger for women but despise the Feminine.

Committing to your limiting beliefs and arguing for them when they're challenged is a losing strategy. If you think nothing will help, you're right.

So many guys on this app who shriek all the time about how bad it is that men now are soft should really focus on how bad it is for them to be fragile.

One of the most helpful things to realize is that we all have some level of inner war and that there is part of us that is always seeking to undermine our wellbeing.

So much of American protestantism celebrates being juvenile. Silliness, constant attempts to be funny and entertaining are seen as "reaching people" when it's really just blocking people from becoming grown ups. This is why churches now are full of terrible rock music "praise…

The Midwest is more than just corn, small towns and road construction on every major highway It also has people that wave at you as they drive by in a small town while they’re on their way to get sweet corn on a road under construction

“When we take joy in the distress and ruination of other people, we make monsters of ourselves” —Kat Rosenfield