Jonathan Shedler
@JonathanShedler
Professor, psychologist, author. Tweets about psychology, psychiatry, psychotherapy. Writings, podcasts, talks👇
1/ One of most important things I've learned: Severe personality problems find *camouflage.* No one thinks “I’m a sadist” or “I'm a malignant narcissist.” They find a belief system/social group that validates their most hateful, destructive impulses & construes them as virtues.
Great discussion @JonathanShedler, w/@BridgetPhetasy about understanding complexity in relationships (including w/oneself) in yet another relationship w/ a therapist & why that takes times in actual psychotherapy, plus things that rankle you. youtu.be/_5kzRS7gauk?si… via @YouTube
Thinks about the DSM-5 construct “Substance Use Disorder.” Then consider the discussion below Two very different ways of looking at the world One, IMHO, opens the door to psychological understanding, and one does not 👇
Why so much research into addiction is plain wrong. 🧵 Addiction is not simply a compulsion or a moral failing. It is a maligned form of attachment. When early caregivers are absent, frightening, or unpredictable, the child turns to internal strategies.
This
Oftentimes, patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really. They say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-defeating ways—but feel better doing it. Real…
Disappointment, grief, frustration, despair - these are often the gateways to meaningful and positive change. Learning how to lean in and experience these feelings in service to oneself within the frame of meaningful psychotherapy can make the difficulty worthwhile.
Oftentimes, patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really. They say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-defeating ways—but feel better doing it. Real…
Many people want to feel better living the same way. Can’t work
Oftentimes, patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really. They say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-defeating ways—but feel better doing it. Real…
Interesting
Oftentimes, patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really. They say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-defeating ways—but feel better doing it. Real…
So much this
Oftentimes, patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really. They say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-defeating ways—but feel better doing it. Real…
Oftentimes, patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really. They say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-defeating ways—but feel better doing it. Real…