Check My Church | Sarah Young

Just gonna put this back up here. checkmychurch.org/post/why-didn-…

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Narcissists don’t change — they normalize. They can’t sustain the effort it takes to pretend they’re decent people 100%, so instead, they work to make abuse seem normal. They’ll say or do something cruel with a smile or a laugh — like it’s just a joke, or not a big deal. And over…

Malignant narcissists often fixate on someone they envy—someone whose innocence, empathy, or strong moral compass unconsciously exposes the narcissist’s own inner void. The narcissist feels threatened, even attacked, simply by the existence of a person who embodies traits they…

Abuse in ministries & churches often thrives through the interplay of destructive leaders, complicit followers & enabling environments, writes author @WadeMullen. Organizational systems based on this 'toxic triangle' perpetuate cycles of control & silence julieroys.com/toxic-triangle…

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On women and college. I was basically a high-school drop-out. Didn't have enough credits or attendance days to officially graduate but our small-town principal had mercy and gave me a diploma anyway. My parents were ashamed I was allowed to walk undeservedly and refused to throw…

I genuinely feel pity for wolves in sheep's clothing. They're so miserable and broken. I feel bad for them, and I want to give them the benefit of the doubt. This is what used to leave me open to their abuse. Used to.

The theology of a predator is ultimately the idolatry of self dressed in holy vestments, writes educator David Bumgardner. A minister's giftedness, coupled with an appetite for a platform & his own sense of grandeur, foments a deadly spiritual narcissism. julieroys.com/theology-of-pr…

One of the most abusive things the sociopath or malignant #Narcissist will do is to play the victim role while making the actual victim look like the perpetrator of the abuse. It’s a double attack. This is a form of “Crazy making” performed by the sickest and most toxic people.

Narcissists won’t just be abusive. They’ll do tiny, petty things that technically aren’t abuse but they’re designed to get under your skin. They know exactly what they’re doing. And they know you can’t say anything because what they’re doing isn’t technically abuse. It’s not “bad…

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I say we line the border and push California into the ocean. Who's with me?

Dear Church Abuse Survivors, There's no such thing as a perfect victim. Your abusers will try to convince you that your sin is the same as theirs, and if you expose theirs, you'll also be exposing yours, so you stay quiet. This is blackmail, but it's also sin-leveling. Your…

The use of verbal and emotional mistreatment to silence a victim, coupled with power used to prevent exposure of an abuser, can have catastrophic outcomes in a person’s life. The combined abuses constitute a life-destroying tsunami.

Sci-fi’s essential purpose is warning. Fantasy’s essential purpose is reminding.

My God these guys can’t stop. Brady Boyd didn’t fall from grace, he walked out of it and straight into PR mode. When some pastors lose the pulpit, they don’t repent, they rebrand. The ppl who financially support this nonsense are to blame.

Here’s a bit more on Russel Brand: 1. “He is a sinner, he made mistakes.” This is sin leveling. Not all sins are equal when it comes to leadership and trust. Rape and sexual abuse are intentional predatory actions, not “mistakes.” Biblical repentance requires actions to…

Or... hear me out... we love Jesus and want to sit at His feet, too. And you won't take it from us, Lexy. Luke 10:38-42