Frannyfanny
@proud_penelope
Psychotherapist/LPC. Here for the psychoanalytic stuff. Lover of David Bowie and St. Teresa of Avila
Psychoanalyst John Bowlby argued that the need for attachment is as essential as food or oxygen. When that need goes unmet, the developing mind seeks alternatives. Addiction becomes an emotional prosthesis, not to feel good, but to feel less alone and more regulated.
Unfortunately there’s nothing I like more than a woke $8 ice cream from a place with a name that’s an ampersand between two nouns
(addiction) Euphoria, euphoria, you come at such a price Every time I get a hold of you, I know I roll the dice How far can I go from my pain before it takes my life? Perhaps in death, Euphoria, you’ll be forever mine m.youtube.com/watch?v=eGTkyA…
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“Why does the presence of desire inherently complicate a relationship between two people?” Because our desire forces us to acknowledge just how much we want there to be something that doesn’t exist: the sexual relation.
A perfect tribute
In my early teen years in suburban Illinois, during that purgatorial time when your hormones are screaming but you don’t have a driver’s license yet, a group of us would pass the time roller-skating in our friend Tara’s basement while listening to heavy metal. We liked Black…
Holy guacamole this is good stuff “What is defended, in the end, is a spontaneous self in search of context, one of safety rather than terror or injury.”
My latest stack, on the confusions of the term “defense” in the context of sexual compulsivity. darrenhaber.substack.com/p/border-lines
“Clients who feel their therapist are right but not empathic take their therapeutic medicine with a choking dose of shame…” Nancy McWilliams
no you don’t understand, this is my Special Mistake. i keep making it because it is very dear to me, like an old friend
“No one has seemed to resolve the problem of our need for women to be likable” 😮💨
These qualities are experienced as charming, sweet. Men and women both like them. We love Disney princesses still, just updated a bit for modern sensibilities. So what is there to do about any of this? No one has seemed to resolve the problem of our need for women to be likable.