Chris Lakin
@ChrisChipMonk
Deep Unlearning Researcher & Bounty hunter @ http://incentivealigned.com
research update: it’s working therapy-resistant insecurities continue to prove unlearnable x.com/ChrisChipMonk/…
to validate my research, i began offering pay-on-results coaching in july my clients have paid $40,300 for achieving their goals how did your side-gigs do this year?
“Ramping equanimity without corresponding compassion and wisdom is quite dangerous…” There are many incentives to suffer! These incentives require careful integration. But many people treat suffering like it’s always bad and suboptimal “reduce reduce reduce”
Ramping equanimity without corresponding compassion and wisdom is quite dangerous that way. Equanimity isn’t an unlimited good.
this is great; the first stage is often overlooked imo a lot of ppl who experience "chronic stuckness" can find the root cause in abnormally high levels of inflammation (common in modernity) which negatively impact neuroplasticity and prevent them from discarding old patterns
What’s bottlenecking you from feeling secure about everything?
Begging everyone to unlearn their insecurities & develop a secure relationship with THEMSELVES first so all this needless pain and suffering can be avoided x.com/ChrisChipMonk/…
Being secure matters because you can do SO MUCH MORE than you can do now if you aren’t always secretly routing your life around avoiding this or that emotion that you dread.
Yeah, how is it that people can be so smart but never really apply that intelligence to their emotions? It’s certainly possible, but many never seem to do it
reflecting on how all my life it seemed like there was such a tremendous emphasis on the value of being cerebrally clever, and yet how all of the really wicked problems I’ve had + I’ve known people around me to have had, have come from incompetence with emotions, below the neck
They don't tell you this but your feelings can be a ReLU! x.com/ChrisChipMonk/…
You can care about the thing and want it without having anxiety about not having it
This is so cool! New way to detect hidden insecurities: take a drug that increases your baseline anxiety
i've gone on wellbutrin recently, which has slightly elevated my anxiety levels. i think it's made it easier for me to spot insecurities because I have a mild physical response to thinking about them now (a clenching feeling in my torso)
Ok but WHY is neediness unattractive? I have a theory but I want to hear yours first
Can we give my friend a round of applause. She's 27, looking for a life partner, and dating with *agency*
