Dr. Nicole LePera

Learning how to say “no” is how we gain confidence and self respect. It’s our most basic boundary. Here’s how to practice:

Are you mean, or are you just exhausted?

Don’t avoid screen as night if you have trauma or nighttime anxiety. Screens can distract you from your thoughts and be a way of self soothing. Without them, it can be harder to actually fall asleep.

Someone needs to hear this: you can be raised by a parent and not know them at all. More families are familiar strangers than you think.

Disorganized attachment summed up: emotionally unavailable people bring out your neediness, and highly needy people bring out your avoidance.

If you want someone to tell you the truth, become someone who can hear the truth.

One of the way to improve your confidence and learn emotional regulation is to execute on a goal, and push through it when when you’re uncertain or frustrated. Finish things you start, you’ll heal.

Partner with someone who doesn’t expect it to be easy. Who is ready to put in work and effort. Who gives you grace on difficult days and encouragement when you fall into survival mode.

Meeting someone who genuinely enjoys doing the most mundane tasks with you is one of life’s greatest glimmers.

Feeling bored is a sign your nervous system is finally getting regulated.

How to regulate your nervous system in 2 minutes: