Dr. Gabriel Barsawme, LSW

Your body chooses who you feel safe with, before your brain knows why. That’s Dr. Porges discovered after over 45 years studying trauma and the nervous system. His message? Love isn’t just a feeling. It’s a nervous system event. Here’s how it works—and how healing begins: 👇

You were never too much. You were just surrounded by people who didn’t know how to hold depth.

You stayed in places that hurt because they felt like home. That’s not weakness. That’s attachment trauma.

You needed affection, but learned to accept attention instead. And that small trade-off changed your whole idea of love.

You weren’t “just tired.” You were carrying years of pretending. And pretending is exhausting.

It’s not that you don’t want peace. It’s just that stillness reminds your body of what it felt like to wait for something bad to happen.

It’s not that you don’t want peace. It’s just that stillness reminds your body of what it felt like to wait for something bad to happen.

You spent years bracing, for rejection, for anger, for abandonment, and you didn’t even know it until someone touched you gently and your whole body flinched.

You didn’t “overreact.” You remembered. Your body remembered. And no one was there to say: “You’re safe now.”

You’re not failing. You’re just carrying the weight of a past you were never meant to hold alone.

You hate your anger but that was the only part of you that said: “You don’t get to treat me like this anymore.”

You can’t think your way out of trauma. You have to breathe into the places you once had to go numb.

Letting go doesn’t happen with a decision. It happens with a breath you didn’t know you were still holding.