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Lauryn Hill once said, “Everybody wants to know where you’re going to, ’cause they wanna come or so they think , until they find the cost of it. Until they find out what you lost for it.” If that ain’t the truth. Ppl romanticise your becoming, but couldn’t stomach your unbecoming
"If they had to lose you to become emotionally available, it wasn’t growth. Because growth doesn’t come from how they begin a relationship. It shows up in how they repair when it gets hard. It shows up in whether they run or stay and learn to feel."
You’ll never heal if you keep romanticising the person who hurt you. Bc ppl don’t change just bc they find someone new. They continue to do what they’ve always done until someone asks for more. That avoidant ex you couldn’t get close to, is still avoidant. Let me explain.
Most men don’t like you. They just want to experience you. Dont be the experiment & know the difference. Here’s how;
Ironically, they push away the people they like/love the most. They’d treat a situationship “better” than an actual partner because they’re not a threat to their nervous system.
I don’t totally agree I feel avoidants are only avoidants the people they are not that into
“Growth shows up in how they repair when it gets hard”.
You’ll never heal if you keep romanticising the person who hurt you. Bc ppl don’t change just bc they find someone new. They continue to do what they’ve always done until someone asks for more. That avoidant ex you couldn’t get close to, is still avoidant. Let me explain.
Let’s not normalised this idea as if love is a possession someone holds, not an action they choose to give. Love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a function. If it doesn’t function, it’s not love. How do you know he loves you, if what’s given doesn’t match what love requires?
Knowing a man loves you but can't love you properly is a painful situation.
tell ppl this all the time. gone be the same person no matter who they with, just waiting to pull it out.
You’ll never heal if you keep romanticising the person who hurt you. Bc ppl don’t change just bc they find someone new. They continue to do what they’ve always done until someone asks for more. That avoidant ex you couldn’t get close to, is still avoidant. Let me explain.
A therapist on IG said “You don’t chase them bc you love them. You chase them bc deep down, you’re still trying to prove to yourself that you’re worth staying for.” It’s not just about them. It’s about the part of you that still believes love has to be earned.